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Missionary Kid: How I Learned to Say Goodbye

Monday, January 29th, 2018

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I have to admit that John Haines’ book about being a missionary kid is better than mine, so if you’re only going to buy one, buy his. Many of you have read mine, which was written from the point of view of a child. His point of view is of an adult looking back with nostalgia and wistfulness at what once was. I like the processing that he went through in a humorous, stream-of-consciousness style. If I ever re-write my own book, I will stop and philosophize from time to time like he did. The memoir of his life made me laugh and cry as I relived my own experiences.

I hadn’t even finished the prologue when I got a lump in my throat and wanted to cry.  It seems that we MK’s have explosively deep emotions that are buried out of sight like land mines. In the book, his land mine was set off by seeing a Moroccan woman who looked so much like his maid/nanny when he was young. It was like he imprinted on her like a mother figure, and then when he moved away from Morocco and hadn’t seen her for decades, he went back as an adult, and the familiar face triggered all the childhood memories. This set off an overwhelming sensation, almost as if he was re-united with his mother for the first time in years.

So I knew by page 4 that I was going to enjoy doing this review, which I agreed to do for compensation. It was the most emotionally satisfying review I’ve done. I wrote notes all over the margins as I pondered why I felt a certain way about what the author was saying (whether grief, laughter, empathy, or whatever emotion was evoked).

The personality (or voice) behind the writing had a detached bluntness and humor combined with the friendliness of a tour guide telling someone the way things are for missionary kids. This is not a religious book, and it is written to believers, unbelievers, and what he calls “innocent ones.” Each category is sometimes addressed separately. The “innocent ones” are not Christians, but they are not against Christians either, so they are taking in the story as impartial recipients.

The author is blunt about everything he experienced as a missionary kid, so I believe that MK’s especially will love the book because he says things with shocking honesty that we would never dare say at the time we were on the mission field.

There was so much MK humor in the book. For example, he mentions “lists of three being a feature of the sermons I grew up on,” and “What better home for an uprooted missionary kid than a boarding school full of missionary kids?” That second quote is from the chapter describing his interesting boarding school experiences.

Many pearls of MK wisdom were tossed out at us throughout the book. Here’s one: “Wandering like the Children of Israel in a land that was not ours, we never got to stop and savor one of life’s most priceless commodities: friends.” As you can see, he uses the language of someone who grew up with what I call church language, and he says things that are profound in a boy-next-door kind of way. The topic itself has poignancy because we constantly had to say good-bye to our friends. Hence the title: Missionary Kid: How I Learned to Say Goodbye.

The book ended in a satisfying way as he returned to the lands of his childhood. I believe that every missionary kid should go back to their motherland at some point in their adult lives to be able to come full circle and heal from all the unresolved grief of having to say good-bye so much in our lives. Last year I did just that, and I felt a sense of completion. I too felt that I had finally come home.

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My Most Popular MK Memes and Pins

Monday, January 1st, 2018

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Having grown up as a missionary kid and written a book about it, I decided to start a Facebook page that would resonate with missionary kids. If you’re an MK or enjoy reading about MK’s, you will love our community over there. I post original MK memes, videos from my recent trip back to Guatemala where I grew up, blog posts I’ve written about being an MK, poignant blog posts from other sites that apply to MK’s, news that would interest MK’s, travel stuff, humor, etc. Come join us by liking our page!

Top 10 Popular MK Memes on Facebook:

So far I’ve created 86 original MK memes. These are the 10 most popular, in case you missed them. I’ve linked to the actual FB post after each meme {in brackets}, in case you want to share the meme to your friends and family, to reminisce and sigh and re-live the good old times:

1. Furlough: a fake vacation where you drive all over kingdom come, only stopping to visit churches and have your cheeks pinched. (“Look how much you’ve grown.”) {FB} 199 likes, 181 shares

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2. You know you’re an MK when singing in front of an audience was not optional, even if you were mortified… {FB} 157 likes, 32 shares

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3. You know you’re an MK when you’ve heard the same furlough sermon over and over. {FB} 94 likes, 32 shares

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4. You know you’re an MK when this looks normal. {FB} 70 likes, 66 shares

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5. You know you’re an MK when you hesitate before drinking tap water. {FB} 68 likes, 15 shares

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6. You know you’re an MK when you spread out American food like it’s contraband. {FB} 63 likes, 27 shares

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7. You know you’re an MK when you will never see your childhood home again… (Hey, when I wrote this meme, I believed it, but guess what? I saw my childhood home last summer and filmed it! Watch it here.) {FB} 61 likes 20 shares

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8. You know you’re an MK when you can pack all of your belongings into two checked bags and a carry-on. {FB} 60 likes, 11 shares

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9. You know you’re an MK when you see your family picture hanging on someone’s refrigerator. {FB} 56 likes, 14 shares

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10. You know you’re an MK when you long for the beauty of another world. {FB} 51 likes, 2 shares

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My first MK meme ever: Missionary Kid Bat Mobile (aka furlough car) {FB} 47 likes, 12 shares

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My 10 Most-Pinned MK Posts:

1.2K pins = You know you’re an MK when you hesitate before drinking tap water. {pin}

709 pins = You know you’re an MK when this looks normal. (bus packed with people) {pin}

144 pins = You know you’re an MK when open markets remind you of home. {pin}

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133 pins = Furlough: a fake vacation where you drive all over kingdom come, only stopping to visit churches and have your cheeks pinched. (“Look how much you’ve grown.”) {pin}

109 pins = You know you’re an MK when the maid was a part of your family. {pin}

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106 pins = You know you’re an MK when your thoughts are not the same as a typical American. {pin}

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95 pins = You know you’re an MK when you’re homesick for a place you will probably never see again. {pin}

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94 pins = You know you’re an MK when you long for the beauty of another world. {pin}

93 pins = You know you’re an MK when singing in front of an audience was not optional, even if you were mortified… {pin}

91 pins = Missionary kids have to be perfect (blog post) {pin}

If you would like to follow my MK board on Pinterest, click here.

To watch the video playlist on YouTube of our Guatemala Adventure, click here.

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The Sin of Lust: MK Perspective

Friday, November 18th, 2016

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Lust is always described in Scripture as sin, yet we accept it in our churches as normal. We don’t even bother to fight against the lusts of the flesh any more (1 John 2:16), and we have believed the lie that we are slaves to our lusts. Eerily, Scripture says that only unbelievers are slaves to their lusts.

“All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.” Ephesians 2:3 NIV

“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.” Colossians 3:5 NIV

So what exactly is lust? Lust is a selfish greed, an excessive wanting of something to gratify oneself. Bible Study Tools describes it as “a strong craving or desire, often of a sexual nature. Though used relatively infrequently (twenty-nine times) in Scripture, a common theme can be seen running through its occurrences. The word is never used in a positive context; rather, it is always seen in a negative light, relating primarily either to a strong desire for sexual immorality or idolatrous worship.”

Scripture says that sexual sin is worse than any other sin because it’s desecrating the temple of the Holy Spirit. “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

You become what you look at. This nation provides so much wickedness. We have been inoculated with worse and worse immorality through television: things that were once considered crimes are embraced by Christians. Our hearts are filthy. This is why we are bored. The world has provided an addictive continuous stream of wickedness to look at, and we have gradually become more and more wicked.

Pornography trains men to harm women. It has led to thousands of rapes and brutalities. It has fueled more and more perversions and greed that lead to excruciating sexual pain. If God calls something an abomination when committed against a man, it is also an abomination when committed against women and children. May we not be a nation of Christian Pharisees that excuse brutalities because of loopholes that the atrocities are not forbidden word-for-word in Scripture, and so they are not sin. This is a demonic doctrine, and it flies in the face of God’s purity and holiness.

The Pharisees in the days of Jesus would rape young boys and claim that it wasn’t sin because the Bible doesn’t say word-for-word that you can’t commit an excruciating, de-humanizing act against children. They said that the Bible forbade only sodomy against another man. So if a boy was younger than 20 years old, he could be brutalized. The Pharisees also brutalized their own precious wives in the same way. I heard a sermon where all these facts were backed up with documentation, and the following day, the video had been taken down. The prince of the power of the air who rules this world took it off the internet.

I know of seven Christian women who have been damaged by their Christian husbands through sodomy. 100% of them said it was physically excruciating, it felt like a serrated knife, and their anus hurt for days, even when lubrication had been applied beforehand. If done over a period of time, the women had permanent damage to their rectum, with poo leaking out and having to wipe 20 times after going to the bathroom. Furthermore, the women felt like pieces of garbage, completely desecrated human beings.

In the same way that all humans know there is a God (Romans 1:21), all humans know there are sexual actions that ought not to be done, that degrade the bodies of others, and that grieve the heart of God. (“God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.” Romans 1:28) Everyone, the first time they thought of sodomy, knew that it was wrong. They felt weird inside, and their conscience was pricked. But they suppressed the truth in unrighteousness because their deeds were evil (Romans 1:18). We have been handed over to our lusts by God: “Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves.” (Romans 1:24 ESV) We have reached Romans 1 as a nation, and Christian men are as just as evil as the world.

Twice in Scripture we see the sexually depraved imploding of a nation: in Sodom and Gomorrah and in the tribe of Benjamin at the end of the book of Judges. Because no one wants to be on the receiving end of sodomy, the sodomites (ALL the men of the nation) actively raped all newcomers. For the Benjamites, the sodomites sexually damaged a woman until she was dead. God rightly strikes sodomites dead with fire and brimstone. ALL sodomites are violent because the action of sodomy is a violent act, even if men are taking turns enduring it so that they can have a turn (gay marriage).

If God says that men taking turns damaging each other’s anuses is an abomination, how much more does God abhor Christian men who damage their own wives who they vowed before God to protect? They have broken a vow to God and they have destroyed their wives. May God bring His full judgment down on their heads.

God, wake up our nation to sexual purity, to a marriage bed that is delightful to BOTH the wife and husband, and where both are loved and not physically damaged. Guard the eyes of the people of our nation against the pornographic sites that train us to do evil and abandon You. Cleanse our hearts and our hands, and cause us to seek holiness instead of our own gratification. In the name of Jesus, who shed His blood and endured all hell to set us free from sin, Amen!

This is the third in a series of “Indictments Against the Sins of America.”

  1. The Sin of Entitlement
  2. The Sin of Boredom
  3. The Sin of Lust (this post)

Here are more posts I’ve written about the sins of our nation. Some of the posts are ways that I have personally battled and overcome these sins:

  1. The Sin of Gluttony
  2. The Sin of Ingratitude
  3. The Sin of Anger
  4. The Sin of Coveteousness
  5. The Sin of Pride

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The Sin of Boredom: MK Perspective

Friday, November 11th, 2016

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Having grown up in a third world country, I have seen true poverty. In Guatemala, people who were finished with their chores would sit outdoors and contemplate life. They were not stressed out, even though they were poor. They didn’t feel that they had to be doing something every second in order to be happy.

In America, there are so many options for continuous entertainment. Most Americans become angry if they don’t have the extra money to do everything their heart desires. They lash out at the people around them that they are miserable, even though they have already spent lots of money on entertainment.

The sin of boredom is truly ugly. It reveals a heart of self-centeredness. Instead of asking God who to minister to at that moment (either by phone or in real life), they think only about themselves. They lack love. Love seeks the good of others above oneself. The majority of Americans have no love. As Jesus tells us about these end times in Matthew 24:12, “Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.”

We are commanded to be different from the world. First John 2:15 says, “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.” What a cold statement! The love of the Father is NOT in the man who loves the things of the world.

Even the fluff entertainment (that might not be sin in and of itself), when indulged to excess the way that Americans do, leads to tens of thousands of squandered hours. We will stand before God and give an account of our time. We will be ashamed. We will wish we had the time back to glorify God rather than indulge our flesh.

But very little of today’s entertainment is harmless. It causes us to indulge in sins of the mind, which lead to sins of action. As a whole, American Christians don’t even have a conscience any more. No only do they indulge in wickedness, but they feel entitled to self-pamper their greed every waking moment.

When the Israelites in the wilderness were “bored” with the manna that God miraculously provided, God sent quail for meat, and God struck dead the people who were bored, wanting more variety in their life. This is how God feels about boredom. It’s inextricably related to ungratefulness. God had supernaturally provided for all their needs, and they slapped God in the face because they DEMANDED more variety. They were angry that God did not give them more variety. They were ready to go back into slavery in Egypt rather than “put up” with God’s provision. What rotten people! No wonder God struck them dead!

Yet we are WORSE in this nation. God has given us more riches than any preceding time in history, and instead of being fully satisfied with our manna from God, we slap God in the face and demand to be self-pampered with whatever we can think of. If we can think it up, we should be able to do it without hindrance. How dare God say that we can’t do whatever we feel like doing?

God, have mercy on our nation where we say, “Have fun,” every time someone leaves the house to go out, as if the goal of life is having fun. Instead we should say, “Find ways to glorify God while you’re out.” Are we actually Christians, or do we indulge our flesh to the same level as the world?

This is the second in a series of “Indictments Against the Sins of America.”

  1. The Sin of Entitlement
  2. The Sin of Boredom (this post)
  3. The Sin of Lust

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