Posts Tagged ‘sexual sin’

Sexual Purity for Teen Boys

Monday, February 20th, 2017

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If you are concerned about sexual purity for teen boys as a parent in our day and age, you are not alone. Sexual sin is rampant in our culture, and things are getting worse as internet porn shows more and more violent sexual actions against women to be desirable. How is a young man to keep his way pure? By keeping it according to God’s Word. Hal and Melanie Young have just made this task easier for Christian parents by writing their new book Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality.

Everything is covered in this book, from pornography to masturbation to sexual perversion to how to find a good wife. How to regain purity is also discussed. Everything is spoken of in a clean, frank way that is necessary for addressing these topics. The book is also thin enough to be read in one sitting. One of my teen sons finished it in two hours one morning. Another son spent two days reading it. Nothing came as a surprise to my sons because I’ve addressed sexual issues head-on every time they have been mentioned in Scripture or in literature over the years.

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Dr. Tedd Tripp, author of Shepherding a Child’s Heart (my favorite parenting book that addresses heart issues instead of outer behavior) has read the book and recommends it, if you need the endorsement of a well-known Christian speaker.

For every Christian mother who has wrung her hands, wondering if her son may be viewing pornography behind her back or with friends, this book will address this awkward conversation so that your son doesn’t have to feel weird talking about this to his mother.

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I praise God for a husband who was able to have the “birds and bees” conversation with our sons when they were twelve. Each of our sons heard about sex first from his own father instead of his peers, and it was mentioned as something you were only supposed to do with your spouse. This is one reason many people homeschool their kids, to control the amount of sexual smut that comes in from public schooled peers. But you can’t shelter your teens forever, no matter how much you try, especially when they leave home for college. Our sons must make up their minds to be sexually pure before marriage BEFORE they leave home.

Our teen boys must learn self-control before they face the world on their own. They MUST. We cannot leave this to chance and hope for the best.

I met Hal and Melanie a few years ago when they spoke at a homeschool conference here in Spokane. They are the real deal, people who love and honor God wholeheartedly. If you are going to buy the book, please buy it from their website to bless them : Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality.

The Sin of Lust: MK Perspective

Friday, November 18th, 2016

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Lust is always described in Scripture as sin, yet we accept it in our churches as normal. We don’t even bother to fight against the lusts of the flesh any more (1 John 2:16), and we have believed the lie that we are slaves to our lusts. Eerily, Scripture says that only unbelievers are slaves to their lusts.

“All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.” Ephesians 2:3 NIV

“Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.” Colossians 3:5 NIV

So what exactly is lust? Lust is a selfish greed, an excessive wanting of something to gratify oneself. Bible Study Tools describes it as “a strong craving or desire, often of a sexual nature. Though used relatively infrequently (twenty-nine times) in Scripture, a common theme can be seen running through its occurrences. The word is never used in a positive context; rather, it is always seen in a negative light, relating primarily either to a strong desire for sexual immorality or idolatrous worship.”

Scripture says that sexual sin is worse than any other sin because it’s desecrating the temple of the Holy Spirit. “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20

You become what you look at. This nation provides so much wickedness. We have been inoculated with worse and worse immorality through television: things that were once considered crimes are embraced by Christians. Our hearts are filthy. This is why we are bored. The world has provided an addictive continuous stream of wickedness to look at, and we have gradually become more and more wicked.

Pornography trains men to harm women. It has led to thousands of rapes and brutalities. It has fueled more and more perversions and greed that lead to excruciating sexual pain. If God calls something an abomination when committed against a man, it is also an abomination when committed against women and children. May we not be a nation of Christian Pharisees that excuse brutalities because of loopholes that the atrocities are not forbidden word-for-word in Scripture, and so they are not sin. This is a demonic doctrine, and it flies in the face of God’s purity and holiness.

The Pharisees in the days of Jesus would rape young boys and claim that it wasn’t sin because the Bible doesn’t say word-for-word that you can’t commit an excruciating, de-humanizing act against children. They said that the Bible forbade only sodomy against another man. So if a boy was younger than 20 years old, he could be brutalized. The Pharisees also brutalized their own precious wives in the same way. I heard a sermon where all these facts were backed up with documentation, and the following day, the video had been taken down. The prince of the power of the air who rules this world took it off the internet.

I know of seven Christian women who have been damaged by their Christian husbands through sodomy. 100% of them said it was physically excruciating, it felt like a serrated knife, and their anus hurt for days, even when lubrication had been applied beforehand. If done over a period of time, the women had permanent damage to their rectum, with poo leaking out and having to wipe 20 times after going to the bathroom. Furthermore, the women felt like pieces of garbage, completely desecrated human beings.

In the same way that all humans know there is a God (Romans 1:21), all humans know there are sexual actions that ought not to be done, that degrade the bodies of others, and that grieve the heart of God. (“God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done.” Romans 1:28) Everyone, the first time they thought of sodomy, knew that it was wrong. They felt weird inside, and their conscience was pricked. But they suppressed the truth in unrighteousness because their deeds were evil (Romans 1:18). We have been handed over to our lusts by God: “Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves.” (Romans 1:24 ESV) We have reached Romans 1 as a nation, and Christian men are as just as evil as the world.

Twice in Scripture we see the sexually depraved imploding of a nation: in Sodom and Gomorrah and in the tribe of Benjamin at the end of the book of Judges. Because no one wants to be on the receiving end of sodomy, the sodomites (ALL the men of the nation) actively raped all newcomers. For the Benjamites, the sodomites sexually damaged a woman until she was dead. God rightly strikes sodomites dead with fire and brimstone. ALL sodomites are violent because the action of sodomy is a violent act, even if men are taking turns enduring it so that they can have a turn (gay marriage).

If God says that men taking turns damaging each other’s anuses is an abomination, how much more does God abhor Christian men who damage their own wives who they vowed before God to protect? They have broken a vow to God and they have destroyed their wives. May God bring His full judgment down on their heads.

God, wake up our nation to sexual purity, to a marriage bed that is delightful to BOTH the wife and husband, and where both are loved and not physically damaged. Guard the eyes of the people of our nation against the pornographic sites that train us to do evil and abandon You. Cleanse our hearts and our hands, and cause us to seek holiness instead of our own gratification. In the name of Jesus, who shed His blood and endured all hell to set us free from sin, Amen!

This is the third in a series of “Indictments Against the Sins of America.”

  1. The Sin of Entitlement
  2. The Sin of Boredom
  3. The Sin of Lust (this post)

Here are more posts I’ve written about the sins of our nation. Some of the posts are ways that I have personally battled and overcome these sins:

  1. The Sin of Gluttony
  2. The Sin of Ingratitude
  3. The Sin of Anger
  4. The Sin of Coveteousness
  5. The Sin of Pride

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